dipetik dari utusan malaysia ---Trend melewatkan perkahwinan, terutama di kalangan wanita berpendidikan tinggi bukan sahaja membawa implikasi negatif kepada institusi kekeluargaan malah turut merencatkan pembangunan negara. --- apa maksud kahwin lambat di sini? utusan malaysia tidak menghuraikan dengan lanjut. saya kurang arif. bila wanita berpendidikan tinggi selalu dikaitkan dengan lambat berkahwin. lambat yang macam mana? umur yg berapa di kira lambat? salah wanita ke kalau dia berpendidikan tinggi dan lambat berkahwin? kadang2 kala kene tengok dua2 jantina. jangan secara rawak cakap wanita yang melewatkan perkahwinan.
Pensyarah Jabatan Sosiologi dan Antropologi, Universiti Islam Antarabangsa Malaysia (UIAM), Prof. Dr. Fatimah Daud berkata, trend negatif itu akan menyebabkan pembangunan sosial, ekonomi dan politik negara semakin lembap."Sekiranya trend ini berterusan, saya khuatir kadar kelahiran bayi di negara ini akan semakin menyusut dan kita tidak dapat menambah jumlah penduduk yang merupakan aset paling berharga."Negara kita tidak akan berkembang dengan jumlah penduduk sedia ada sekitar 26 juta orang sahaja. Kita perlu jumlah penduduk yang lebih ramai untuk membantu membangunkan negara."Perkara ini akan menimbulkan masalah kepada negara pada masa akan datang kerana kita bakal kekurangan tenaga kerja sehingga memaksa membawa masuk tenaga dari luar yang saya lihat merupakan satu pembaziran," katanya kepada Utusan Malaysia di sini hari ini. -- kalau dah takde orang nak kahwin dengan wanita berpendidikan tinggi tu nak buat bagaimana. takkan anak nak keluar dengan tiba2. tapi kalau dia dah berkahwin pon tapi takde rezeki? kesian dia. mngkin tuhan tak kasi lagi rezeki tu kat dia.
Selain itu, menurut Fatimah, kos perbelanjaan perkahwinan yang tinggi sehingga mencecah puluhan ribu ringgit turut menjadi faktor penyumbang kepada trend tersebut.Katanya, situasi itu mendorong golongan yang berhasrat untuk berkahwin membuat pinjaman daripada bank bagi menampung segala kos perbelanjaan.
"Paling tidak pun pasangan yang ingin berkahwin perlu menyediakan RM20,000. Ia merupakan antara sebab ramai yang membuat pinjaman bank untuk berkahwin."Kesannya pula, bebanan hutang bertambah kerana kadar bunga bagi pinjaman bank agak tinggi dan menjejaskan kehidupan pasangan selepas berkahwin," jelasnya. -- yang ini saya tak membantah, betul kadang kadang ada manusia tak tahu nak ukur baju di badan sendiri. pakai size L di beli nya size S, memang lah sesak nafas. ini kene wasatiah diri sendiri la. sebab perkahwinan tu bukan bebanan tapi satu kehidupan yang indah dan bahagia. jadi kenapa nak susah kan diri sendiri dan terikut2 keadaan sekeliling?
Sementara itu, Timbalan Presiden Majlis Kebangsaan Pertubuhan-Pertubuhan Wanita Malaysia (NCWO), Datuk Ramani Gurusamy berpendapat, keinginan golongan wanita untuk memiliki kehidupan yang stabil menjadi faktor penyumbang trend itu semakin berleluasa. -- heyy mestilah mahu kehidupan stabil takkan lepas kahwin nak merempat ke ape ke. mestilah nak sesuatu yang menjamin kehidupan abadi. kalau setakat kawin utk dua hari dan tidak berusaha untuk selamanya mcm mana. memanglah duit bukan segala2 nya tapi tak perlu jadi jutawan cukup sekadar pakai makan minum dan boleh dapatkan kehidupan yang tenang, itulah yang kita mahukan. zaman sekarang wanita dan lelaki berganding bahu nak mengubah dan improve kehidupan masing masing.
jadi at the end pada saya tak boleh nak cakap sebab wanita berpendidikan tinggi sengaja melewatkan perkahwinan. banyak faktor yang perlu dilihat sebelum mengeluarkan artikel begini. tapi artikel ni tak de semua yang negative ada yang makes sense. cuma perlu berhati2 dalam mengutarakan pendapat.
ehh jangan saman saya, saya cuma memberi pendapat. awak boleh bangkang pendapat saya. :)
i look up,and i see stars
It is supposed to be soon.. Each day i pray for beautiful life. Full of Flowers. Candies. Love. Everywhere.
This is my fairytale, im diving into it.
As i leave my sweet twenty six, I wish for falling stars, on the tenth of june, i'll pray harder.
This is my fairytale, im diving into it.
As i leave my sweet twenty six, I wish for falling stars, on the tenth of june, i'll pray harder.
top 7 reasons why i hate you
1. You are super lazy and lazy and lazy.
2. You take things for granted. You don't show gratitude. You don't appreciate.
3. You are stingy brat. You only thinks for yourself.
4. You don't know how to take care of other people feelings.
5. You are overjoyed with the world. You forgot others.
6. i hate you knowing the fact that you don't know how to love your self.
7. Crap! You don't think about your future. i hate you for not limiting yourself.
2. You take things for granted. You don't show gratitude. You don't appreciate.
3. You are stingy brat. You only thinks for yourself.
4. You don't know how to take care of other people feelings.
5. You are overjoyed with the world. You forgot others.
6. i hate you knowing the fact that you don't know how to love your self.
7. Crap! You don't think about your future. i hate you for not limiting yourself.
when she is in my heart
when i was small, i was so close to my parents. i used to be their talking puppet that never stop talking. i only stopped when i am not suppose to talk that was sulking. even when i got mad, my mouth and my hands were at the same pace. and mom used to be so strict to me that time. i was naughty, never know how to behave like a real girl.every time i made mistake, cover it up was my ability. but she never failed to make me feel guilty.
i was a teenager when my mom and dad had a real fight. at that time i shed my tears in front of the dad. knowing my ego, that was not me. i don't like to be seen as a week daughter. during my secondary school time, i hate to go out with my parents. i found it was uncool. i was still rebellious that time. i always thought of running from home as early as eleven. i just wanted to explore world and being independent at most of the time.
my mom is a great woman. we used to have financial crisis and she handled it calmly. even though i was pretty naughty and rebellious, yet i knew how to help my family. i used all my savings to help my mom to pay out the debts and she did pay me back. i barely understand what happening that time, but i knew i want to help them. it was tough seeing a mom raising 4 kids even though.. i should keep the details to myself.
our washing machine was once broken and she used to wash all the laundry by her bare hands. she turned older than real age. i pitied her. my eldest sister was not at home that time when i saw her going through the moments. but then i was separated when i need to enter boarding school. it was cool but sad moments. for the first time i shed tears when i called my mom.it was awkward.
i was in university when dad found collapsed during his badminton time. my mom was the one who worried most. i could see the teary eyes every time she was trying hard to recall the bad day. she did take care of my dad even though we knew how stubborn he was and is to accept his condition. she never stops trying till now, taking care his health and always give him good meals.
she is now retired. staying at home all day. that is why i can't leave her. i am working in a place that took me the most 2 hours to get to. i used to complaint a lot. but i just can't move out. she needs me. even though i am not her best daughter and still talking back some times, but deep in her heart, i believe she relieves having me by her side. i am looking forward into my marriage but i am not sure how to handle this. will i be able to move out and live comfortably in my own house? i will have another mom, and i need to be fair. being the last child in family does pressure me a lot. because i can see the house turning empty and sad face of my mom. in her heart, she is lonely and hoping me to be there with her every day. that is what i am trying to do for the past 4 years. even when i am out for a while with my friends, i cant get her out of my mind. if i eat good food outside, i should bring back better food for her. missing her is like every seconds. i wonder what will happen if she no longer here one day. it is a thing i am not ready to go through because i still have lots of thing to do to make her happy. i hope my children will love me too one day just like i feel for my mom, no matter how good or bad i am.
i was a teenager when my mom and dad had a real fight. at that time i shed my tears in front of the dad. knowing my ego, that was not me. i don't like to be seen as a week daughter. during my secondary school time, i hate to go out with my parents. i found it was uncool. i was still rebellious that time. i always thought of running from home as early as eleven. i just wanted to explore world and being independent at most of the time.
my mom is a great woman. we used to have financial crisis and she handled it calmly. even though i was pretty naughty and rebellious, yet i knew how to help my family. i used all my savings to help my mom to pay out the debts and she did pay me back. i barely understand what happening that time, but i knew i want to help them. it was tough seeing a mom raising 4 kids even though.. i should keep the details to myself.
our washing machine was once broken and she used to wash all the laundry by her bare hands. she turned older than real age. i pitied her. my eldest sister was not at home that time when i saw her going through the moments. but then i was separated when i need to enter boarding school. it was cool but sad moments. for the first time i shed tears when i called my mom.it was awkward.
i was in university when dad found collapsed during his badminton time. my mom was the one who worried most. i could see the teary eyes every time she was trying hard to recall the bad day. she did take care of my dad even though we knew how stubborn he was and is to accept his condition. she never stops trying till now, taking care his health and always give him good meals.
she is now retired. staying at home all day. that is why i can't leave her. i am working in a place that took me the most 2 hours to get to. i used to complaint a lot. but i just can't move out. she needs me. even though i am not her best daughter and still talking back some times, but deep in her heart, i believe she relieves having me by her side. i am looking forward into my marriage but i am not sure how to handle this. will i be able to move out and live comfortably in my own house? i will have another mom, and i need to be fair. being the last child in family does pressure me a lot. because i can see the house turning empty and sad face of my mom. in her heart, she is lonely and hoping me to be there with her every day. that is what i am trying to do for the past 4 years. even when i am out for a while with my friends, i cant get her out of my mind. if i eat good food outside, i should bring back better food for her. missing her is like every seconds. i wonder what will happen if she no longer here one day. it is a thing i am not ready to go through because i still have lots of thing to do to make her happy. i hope my children will love me too one day just like i feel for my mom, no matter how good or bad i am.
isu-isu hangat semasa
Kepada mereka yang malas / jarang / tak suka baca/tengok/dengar berita atau kepada mereka yang berada nun jauh di perantauan, meh den nak koba (hamboih tuka tone dek non):
1. Sekarang musim asid getah di muka
Haa kaum2 wanita,mokcik2,adik2 perempuan,jaga jaga. Ada manusia saiko yang suka2 hati dia nak simbah2 acid.ish kalau takat kena kuku ibu jari kelingking kiri kau takpelah. Ni haa dia hentam muka beb. Jerawat batu konfem hilang. Rahsia kejelitaan? Tak jelita dek non. Naik harubiru. Aku nasihatkn jangan la nk p kawasan brickfields ka,pudu ka,jln tar ka,yg byk samseng2 jlnan..kalau boleh pkai alkali byk2 kek muka spy neutralize PH trus.eh tak den gurau yo.
2. Masih lagi sesak di jalan tun razak
Haa pada yg dok german (eceh perasan ado peminat jerman i can speak deutch ok ich mag dich).. Jem masih lg ni haa.ko rasa dokek je kan nk blk klcc keluar ikut jln tun razak.x do dokek mano pon kalau kau kuar opis petu mak aih pjg nya kereta beratur..tu kalau yg beradap..ygx reti sopan tu dah lamo tiaw keto kt depan..kau tau smart tunnel?haa kol 6ptg ko dari klcc ado la 6.35ptg baru kau dpt celah masuk tunnel..ko gheti ak kira bapo lamo tu?den lampi da ni..
3. Ikan bakar terbaik d dato keramat
Eh aku slh topik.mmg nk cita hal medan selera ikan bakar tapi bkn psl ikan bakar. Haa nampak dah nampak kau keliru kn? Aku nk cakap psl kueh..alamak ai lupo namo eh..kuehhh kuehh (aku cuba ni)..haa kuih gandus.. Ado yg ori ado yg tak ori..jaga2 lg!! Yg tak ori namo kodai eh sri gandus corner..haa yg ori tu yg laie satu ko nmpk kat area tu la..den lupo laie hampeh sesungut btol. Acik gandus tu glamor sbb msk majalah 3 ritu.acik pemes!dek sbb tu citi sanggup bratur,den half way je tak thn panassss sbb den mix jawa..jd x thn pns. Org jawa mmg puteri lilin.
4. Ifong 4 puteh dan ipad2 dah kuar kek mesia
Tapi den x boli..xde pekdah pon..hidup bia wasatiah..hihl
5. Terminal 2 seremban bakal tiada
Ni plg denx puas hati.apo kerajaan nogori p lulus projekni.buang duit betol.petu p modified jadikn mydin? Gila. Den x sanggup nk park kek terminal 1 byr rm4.20/day mahal nok.. Rs nk guna kuasa abg den selaku ADO jelebu utk bangkang project ni..huahua
Amacam hot gila update news den kn.harap ekau terhibur(struggle nok type pkai ifong)..
1. Sekarang musim asid getah di muka
Haa kaum2 wanita,mokcik2,adik2 perempuan,jaga jaga. Ada manusia saiko yang suka2 hati dia nak simbah2 acid.ish kalau takat kena kuku ibu jari kelingking kiri kau takpelah. Ni haa dia hentam muka beb. Jerawat batu konfem hilang. Rahsia kejelitaan? Tak jelita dek non. Naik harubiru. Aku nasihatkn jangan la nk p kawasan brickfields ka,pudu ka,jln tar ka,yg byk samseng2 jlnan..kalau boleh pkai alkali byk2 kek muka spy neutralize PH trus.eh tak den gurau yo.
2. Masih lagi sesak di jalan tun razak
Haa pada yg dok german (eceh perasan ado peminat jerman i can speak deutch ok ich mag dich).. Jem masih lg ni haa.ko rasa dokek je kan nk blk klcc keluar ikut jln tun razak.x do dokek mano pon kalau kau kuar opis petu mak aih pjg nya kereta beratur..tu kalau yg beradap..ygx reti sopan tu dah lamo tiaw keto kt depan..kau tau smart tunnel?haa kol 6ptg ko dari klcc ado la 6.35ptg baru kau dpt celah masuk tunnel..ko gheti ak kira bapo lamo tu?den lampi da ni..
3. Ikan bakar terbaik d dato keramat
Eh aku slh topik.mmg nk cita hal medan selera ikan bakar tapi bkn psl ikan bakar. Haa nampak dah nampak kau keliru kn? Aku nk cakap psl kueh..alamak ai lupo namo eh..kuehhh kuehh (aku cuba ni)..haa kuih gandus.. Ado yg ori ado yg tak ori..jaga2 lg!! Yg tak ori namo kodai eh sri gandus corner..haa yg ori tu yg laie satu ko nmpk kat area tu la..den lupo laie hampeh sesungut btol. Acik gandus tu glamor sbb msk majalah 3 ritu.acik pemes!dek sbb tu citi sanggup bratur,den half way je tak thn panassss sbb den mix jawa..jd x thn pns. Org jawa mmg puteri lilin.
4. Ifong 4 puteh dan ipad2 dah kuar kek mesia
Tapi den x boli..xde pekdah pon..hidup bia wasatiah..hihl
5. Terminal 2 seremban bakal tiada
Ni plg denx puas hati.apo kerajaan nogori p lulus projekni.buang duit betol.petu p modified jadikn mydin? Gila. Den x sanggup nk park kek terminal 1 byr rm4.20/day mahal nok.. Rs nk guna kuasa abg den selaku ADO jelebu utk bangkang project ni..huahua
Amacam hot gila update news den kn.harap ekau terhibur(struggle nok type pkai ifong)..
manusia selalu alpa
manusia diberikan akal fikiran. dengan akal fikiran, kita cuba memastikan apa2 yang berlaku di dalam kehidupan adalah di landasan yang kita fikirkan betul.
manusia diberikan kelebihan dan kelemahan. yang bernasib baik akan cuba membantu yang kurang bernasib baik. yang gagah cuba memberikan pertolongan kepada yang lemah.
tetapi kadang kala manusia tidak pernah bersyukur.
mereka mengambil kesempatan di atas kebaikan orang lain.
mereka cuba memanipulasi kan keadaan.
kerana manusia dasar empati dan simpati nya tinggi.
jadi jika anda manusia yang kurang bernasib baik, bersyukur lah dengan keadaan hidup anda. berterima kasih lah kepada mereka yang memberikan bantuan. janganlah ambil kesempatan atas kesenangan orang lain. mereka cuba beramal, tapi kadang kala bila keadaan mendesak amalan mungkin tidak lagi ikhlas.
kepada mereka yang masih disayangi Allah dan diberikan kesenangan duniawi, jangan lupa kepada umat manusia yang masih di bawah. hulurkan bantuan dan saling mengingati.
roda itu berpusing. kadang kala di atas kadang kala di bawah.
jadi jika berhutang bayarlah ketika sampai masanya.
jika berjanji tepati lah janji itu. jangan berkata2 kosong.
jangan mengambil kesempatan.
ukurlah baju di badan sendiri dan sentiasa ingat di mana tahap kita.
manusia diberikan kelebihan dan kelemahan. yang bernasib baik akan cuba membantu yang kurang bernasib baik. yang gagah cuba memberikan pertolongan kepada yang lemah.
tetapi kadang kala manusia tidak pernah bersyukur.
mereka mengambil kesempatan di atas kebaikan orang lain.
mereka cuba memanipulasi kan keadaan.
kerana manusia dasar empati dan simpati nya tinggi.
jadi jika anda manusia yang kurang bernasib baik, bersyukur lah dengan keadaan hidup anda. berterima kasih lah kepada mereka yang memberikan bantuan. janganlah ambil kesempatan atas kesenangan orang lain. mereka cuba beramal, tapi kadang kala bila keadaan mendesak amalan mungkin tidak lagi ikhlas.
kepada mereka yang masih disayangi Allah dan diberikan kesenangan duniawi, jangan lupa kepada umat manusia yang masih di bawah. hulurkan bantuan dan saling mengingati.
roda itu berpusing. kadang kala di atas kadang kala di bawah.
jadi jika berhutang bayarlah ketika sampai masanya.
jika berjanji tepati lah janji itu. jangan berkata2 kosong.
jangan mengambil kesempatan.
ukurlah baju di badan sendiri dan sentiasa ingat di mana tahap kita.
